Reminder: clothes are supposed to fit you, not the other way
around.
In this week's episode of the Fat Murder
Podcast, co-coach, Steph Miramontes and I talk about
the "Goldilocks wardobe" and why it's important to stop
romanticizing smaller clothes and the life you anticipate in
them.
We're not suggesting that there's anything inherently wrong
with wanting to be in a smaller body if that's your goal, but when
you look at your true motivators, do you like your reasons?
- What are you expecting to change?
- Who are you changing for?
- How will your life be different when you lose 10 pounds?
- Is it possible that you don't need to wait until you're a size
4 to be happy?
Happiness is not a size. It's a mindset. BUT, through diet
culture, we've learned how to disconnect from our bodies and lose
trust in its language.
We hold on to our pre-baby wardrobe, idolizing and
anticipating what life would be like when we get back into our
college jeans.
And on the opposite side of that, we shamefully hang
on to our "big girl" clothes just in case we "fall off the
wagon" again.
Both messages keep us struggling. Both messages communicate,
"you can't be trusted."
And both messages communicate, the love you have for your
body is conditional. Nice, new clothes are reserved for a smaller
body -- one that is more deserving of kindness and respect.
But is that true? And how is this belief system helping
you?
So much of our emotional eating is rooted in escaping negative
thoughts about our bodies and what we make clothing sizes mean
about us. But what if you were stranded alone on an island...would
this still be a problem of yours?
Join Steph and I as we dig into this complex topic.
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